Much has been said about the “men problem.” You can hear about it on Oprah. You can read about it in Time, you can watch the destruction it creates with Dr. Phil.
School teachers can barely educate on the heels of it. Social services are overwhelmed because of it. Employers are stumped by it. Law enforcement feels the brunt of it. Many jails and prisons are full because of it. Politicians don’t know what to do with it. Candidates avoid it. Authors and academics have assembled alarming statistics to prove it. Health care professionals publish convincing reports to document the human cost of it. Cable shows rant at it. Talk radio personalities have all the answers for it. Movies glamorize it.
Television commercials mock it. The “men problem.” Divorce courts are at capacity because of it. Families are ripped apart by it. Wives soak their pillows with tears as a result of it. Children grow up in poverty as a consequence of it. Teenagers experiment with drugs and sex to cope with it. A lot of money gets spent to treat the symptoms of it. We open teenage pregnancy centers, establish substance abuse centers, increase budgets for social services, build homes for battered women, authorize more jail space, put extra beds in our homeless shelters, increase the number of law enforcement officers, and fit our schools with metal detectors to deal with it. Everyone is concerned about it. Many address the consequences of it. Yet very few people are doing anything that will change the root of it. “It” is among the most pervasive social, economic, political, and spiritual problems of all time. Men have become one of our largest neglected people groups. As a result, they are prone to get caught up in the rat race, lead unexamined lives, and become cultural (rather than biblical) Christians.
~ Excerpt from the book, Pastoring men
Being a volunteer at a local jail, you have touched on the truth the matter. I’m thinking that the percent of men being lock up compare to women is close to 90 percent. This number is close to the same world wide. The sad thing is most church people don’t care or are scared to step up to the plate. In Christ alone…
Thanks so much for your interest in what we have to say. I too volunteer in the prison system and love it. I’ve been dealing with men for about twenty years and they are hard to crack, but i’ve had some success and the reason I continue is because i love seeing when a man finally embrace the word of God, the light comes on. It gives me the energy to keep going. So thank you for volunteering God bless you.
this some good stuff right here man, think you on to something. keep up the good work man. loving this mans blog
Thanks Billy for stoping by my desire is to help all men be all they can be in christ.And hope they see the benifit of serving him. God bless you and stick around.
Mr. Roque, how is it going? Man I’m so glad I found you. I just got off the phone with Mrs. Ambroise, she’s going to help me get myself online. She asked had I been by to say hello. I told her I didn’t know you were back. I sure missed the duo of your videos and her writing.
I still owe the both of you lunch.
Glad to know that you’re still holding down the forth man.
Blessings
Hey Jacob how have you been i’m still here thank the Lord i hope you stick around.GOD BLESS YOU
Mr. Ronnie……
I appreciate your ministry and what you do and say more than my words can say, more then you will ever no. Each morning I have gotten up and gotten in front of my computer with my coffee, bible to listen to your message and read the verses that you give with reading your post to. my husband sees this and have come along side of me to view your blog with me. im sure doing this kind of work for the lord you get discouraged by the many ways satan may try to attack you but please keep going and dont give up. your blog is such a blessing to many of us. I have told a few of my homebond friends to visit you and we even bought one a comptuer so they could watch you. i am so glad you decided to put your videos on itunes because our neighbor has been able to hear you through that way. your such a great man, a great leader and awesome to many of us. you keep doing what you do. you do it well my dear friend.
Thank you for showing an interest in what I’m trying to do. I’m so glad that i can bring you and your husband together. My desire is to touch peoples lives. God bless you. pray for us as we minister to you.
I love u 2 and I love this blog. I wish u published daily.
Sue thanks for the encouragement i wish i could publish daily to but my wife and kids keep me so busy.But i appreciate you for stoping by and rememeber you can’t see unless there is light and God is light.God bless you.
My experience is that men hurt because they choose to ignore what’s going on around them but more importantly with them. Some have egos and this hurts them and those around some just can’t look with in because they are to damaged
Hey Kim thanks for your comment and yes everything is a choice but i don’t believe anyone wants to hurt.It’s not as easy as it sounds, to just talk about your hurt and in my experience some habits are handed down from one generation to the next so they are hard to break, but the important thing is to know that we are responsible for our own actions, and not do what our father’s have done. Self examinenation is the key. God bless you
If they dont want to hurt then why do they keep doing the same thing. Its about learning Mr. Roque, learning from the past mistakes but so many keep on down the same destructive path. If they dont want to hurt then dont do the things that you have seen will hurt you.
Yeah Kim i hear you but don’t confuse simple with being easy do me a favor and go and read galatian 6:1-4. Im just trying to help men know who they are so they know what they need pray for us God bless you
I say these things because I concur with you, men are very much so overlooked and are damaged in ways that we can’t even begin to see and understand, we being us women and sometimes other men friends. How do you help a man feel comfortable enough to really address his issues. We christian say the bible, but so far the bible doesnt seem to be helping them. I’m not saying God cant but something is going array.
Kim one of the things i know is the only way to change anything is to first change your mind {Romans 12 :2}. I you keep doing what you’ve always done, you keep getting what you always get. As Christians we are to live by faith and as men we’ve been fooled into thinking we should know everything, so therefore we don’t ask any question and we suffer and all those around us suffer. And my quest is to make men think because I can’t make them change. Bless you for caring. Also let me say this to all listening to this conversation. Yes it started with the fall but it doesn’t have to stay with the fall, the responsibility is ours and we have to embrace God’s word {Hebrews 4:12, 2 Peter 1:3-10}.
Thanks I love it because I love the interaction from the people.
It’s call the fall sis go back and read what happened in the garden
I LOVE THIS BLOG AND THE DIALOGUE GOING ON. KIM I HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. BUT LIKE THAT OTHER GUY SAY IT STARTED IN THE GARDEN, EVEN ADAM HAD ISSUES — EVE DID TO– AND HE WAS RIGHT THERE UP CLOSE ON GOD.
I realize this is a blog for men, but I visit to help understand my husband and this info just seems good all around. I’m new to your blog, found it at itunes and downloaded several of your messages to my mp3 player. Kim sounds like a woman who has been hurt, and the gentleman was correct it is because of the garden that we are all fallen. It is very true that men have been forgotten and maybe that is the problem.
Thank you Mr. Roque
Thanks for the support yes it for a man but don’t let that stop you from getting what you need because you are one. So stop by anytime and get involve in our conversation God bless you Proverbs 31:10-11
Me and my boyfriend are college students here in Houston and we listen to you on itunes. Love you and thank you for all of your wonderful services
Hey guys thanks for stopping by what college do you attend because i would love to meet you if not stick around.
Hi Angela sent me over here. I had questions about marriage and she told me you could help me. I just discovered that my husband has a seperate checking account and savings. I think this shouldnt be an issue with married folk but after talking to some girlfriends about it, they agree with him and think I should do the same. isn’t this not of the bible
Hello Anna thanks for sharing with us your story when i look in bible Genesis 2:24 says that we are one and you can’t divide one. And also Mark 3:25 says a house divided will not be able to stand. Anna i’m not saying that your husband can’t have a bank account i’m just saying you need to be able to get to it. Let me say this that if we expect God to bless our homes then we need to start honoring his word i hope this help God bless you.
i need help mr. roque i see a problem with men and its the christian man. for whatever reason the Christian man cant see reality and get real with theirselves. im finding out that many men cant face the truth about who they are due to the shame of knowing how they are really operating when no one is looking. deep down they have low selfesteem therefore they evade many things like confrontation unless they can turn it around on you. these sorts of men also evade real intmate relationships because they dont want people getting to close seeing who they really are. so when the romatinc love begins to fade the pressure of reality, especially when the partner begins finding out the faults in them, they fall out of love. when its not a perfect happily relationship the problem in these mens eyes is the fault of the other person. so these men are always on the look out for someone better. many christian men are perpurtrading only doing what they do becuase they think it look good but thats not who they really are. they hiding and lying to theirselves first. talk about that for me.
Thanks for the comment Maria i agree with you some christian men are like that but i want to say to you as men and women we train each other to do the things we do to each other by not holding each other accountable. God has not call us to lie for one another what do i mean the way a relationship starts is the way it going to be so we need to start on the truth and stay on the truth. What i would like to see is for us to quit covering for each other and expose the stuff that going on in your relationship read Ecclesiastes 8:11. The things that i see going on with men today is that they to busy trying to hide their insecurities and they think to show love is to show weakness. But i believe in order to love someone you have to be willing to be hurt by that person hope that helps.
Don’t really know how icame to this website. Hey man I love the videos. I hear what that other lady is saying, my sister was married to a man who was a leader in the church and after 17 years he said he couldn’t hold up the image any more and walked out. He still a ok brother to me you know he takes care of his children and spends time with them but its hard on her still.
Hey Larry i’m glad you found me and i’m glad that brother is taking care of his kids but as men the best gift we can give to our kids is to love their mother. Now bible says that it not given to the swift and the fasted but the who endure and Christ being our example. Read 1 Peter 2:21-23 bless you
Hi Ronnie I was sent to your blog by Angela Ambroise. She did some work with Mrs.shirer and told those of us who were squalking about our man to go and visit her friends blog who deals with the issues we were complaining about. Don’t be surprised if your server doesn’t go down. That girl is good at pulling a crowd.
She may not have shared this with you but she is now working with companies life Lifeway Christian Bookstore, Christianity Today, Family Life Today, marketing their blogs too. She’s the best when it comes to this social media stuff. We look forward to being regulars here too and hope to regularly see you teaching on the web.
God bless you Mr. Roque
Thanks yeah she is good at it but my hope is that we can help you to deal in your struggles God bless you.
Friends from Angela talks coming to say “hello”. I saw her today at Priscilla Shirers blog and she told us of this blog, she said this was one where we could learn to understand our husbands and bring our husbands to get challenged. love your blog new friend!!!!
Thanks our desire is help men be better men,husband, and father because we believe that if man don’t care enough for himself to grow in the word of God. Then he will have a hard time doing it for a family God bless you.
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