Posted: July 8, 2012 in God

Hey all!

Ronnie has moved his site! He can now be found by going to {in case you forget you can use his name too,}.

We’re still working over there and ask that you be patient as we get all of the kinks out.

Thank you


Update from Daphne—

Prayer Warriers, I wanted to take a minute to update all of you on Katie’s progress. She was finally able to keep down her much needed antibiotics last night and her pain is under control. This is a blessing and true answer to your prayers. She woke this morning and told me she had “good sleep”. The light has returned to her eyes and her spirit seems refreshed. We have been reading your comments together plus we have had an amazing outpouring of love and support from family, friends, neighbors and church family. She said, “Mommy, I am getting a whole lot of love.” She feels it in her sweet soul. Words cannot express how grateful I am for each of you. I feel an overflowing of God’s love and healing power. From this point I am just focusing on making certain she continues to get her medication and getting lots of rest. I am to remove her arm bandages this afternoon so the wounds can now get exposure to air and I will be able to assess for any signs of infection. This Friday we return to the Plastic surgeon for evaluation, removal of the face and neck bandages and possibly suture removal. Please just continue to pray for her healing – physically and emotionally, and for our family. If I may ask a request for myself it would be for “good sleep”, too. I have been having some nightmares which are not only disturbing but are preventing me from sleeping well. God Bless you all from the bottom of my heart.
Daphne Roque

To keep up with what’s going on with Katie you can check here all week as we will have regular updates.

“Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.  For where two or three have gathered in My name, I am there in their midst.” ~ Matthew 18:19-20

Jesus looked ahead to a new day when he would be present with his followers not in body, but through his Holy Spirit in the body of believers {the church}, the sincere agreement of two people is more powerful than the superficial agreement of thousands, because Christ’s Holy Spirit is with them.  Two or more believers, filled with the Holy Spirit, will pray according to God’s will, not their own—thus their request will be granted.

Praying for Katie Roque

Posted: May 13, 2012 in God

Hi all, today, I come to you on behalf of Ronnie & Daphne Roque asking you for your prayers.

Yesterday, May 12 2012, Katie Roque was bitten by a dog and had to undergo surgery.  She is a very strong girl, who loves the Lord and knows all about prayer even at a young age thanks to her parents teaching, so I have no doubt that she is going to come through this ordeal stronger than ever, but it is still scary.  Scary for her, her parents and her siblings.  Please keep them your prayers.

Bless this nest, Lord,

of fragile things,

encircling the breakable and broken

in grace,

in the ever warmth of Your wing,

in the sheltering shadow of Your face,

us the clinging ones,

You our clutch of hope,

singing to us the song

of home.

“For this child I prayed, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him”. ~ 1 Sam. 1:27

The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel.” ~ Proverbs 12:15

Most men are long rangers, says Ronnie Roque, founder of Who me be a leader, the word counsel is like a slap in the face to them.”

What is it that keeps a fool from being wise?

His way is right in his own eyes. He thinks he is in the right in everything he does, and therefore asks no advice, because he does not apprehend he needs it. He is confident he knows the way, and cannot miss it, and therefore never inquires the way. The rule he goes by is to do that which is right in his own eyes, to walk in the way of his heart. He makes his will his law. He is a fool that is governed by his eye, and not by his conscience.

What it is that keeps a wise man from being a fool?

He is willing to be advised, desires to have counsel given him, and heeds and gives attention to counsel—what has been said, being reserved and restrained in manner when it comes to his own judgment and having a value for the direction of those that are wise and good. He is wise (it is a sign he is so, and he is likely to continue so) whose ear is always open to good advice.

To learn more about a wise man please watch Ronnie’s Youtube video.”

Excerpts taken and revised from Matthew Henry Commentator.

“As many as 300 million women each year are abused,” says vlogger Ronnie Roque. “I believe that anger is a gender issue,” he says.


Ronnie believes that most women get angry, mostly, by what’s being done to them. “Not that women don’t get angry,” he says.

“Men, on the other hand, become angry by what isn’t BEING DONE FOR THEM.”

Friends, as Ronnie Roque points out anger comes in many forms and it is an emotion that we all are affective by. What matters is first the recognition of it and learning to deal with it appropriately.

This title couldn’t be more fitting because it is true, “Anger denied is anger that is alive.”

Below is an article that Ronnie thought would be fitting to sum up what he talks about in this particular video. This is a video, you won’t wanna miss.

Let’s see what the Bible says about anger:

Question: “What does the Bible say about anger?”

Answer: Handling anger is an important topic. Christian counselors report that 50 percent of people who come in for counseling have problems dealing with anger. Anger can shatter communication and tear apart relationships, and it ruins both the joy and health of many. Sadly, people tend to justify their anger instead of accepting responsibility for it. Everyone struggles, to varying degrees, with anger. Thankfully, God’s Word contains principles regarding how to handle anger in a godly manner, and how to overcome sinful anger.

Anger is not always sin. There is a type of anger of which the Bible approves, often called “righteous indignation.” God is angry (Psalm 7:11; Mark 3:5), and believers are commanded to be angry (Ephesians 4:26). Two Greek words are used in the New Testament for our English word “anger.” One means “passion, energy” and the other means “agitated, boiling.” Biblically, anger is God-given energy intended to help us solve problems. Examples of biblical anger include Paul’s confronting Peter because of his wrong example in Galatians 2:11-14, David’s being upset over hearing Nathan the prophet sharing an injustice (2 Samuel 12), and Jesus’ anger over how some of the Jews had defiled worship at God’s temple in Jerusalem (John 2:13-18). Notice that none of these examples of anger involved self-defense, but a defense of others or of a principle.

Anger turns to sin when it is selfishly motivated (James 1:20), when God’s goal is distorted (1 Corinthians 10:31), or when anger is allowed to linger (Ephesians 4:26-27). Instead of using the energy generated by anger to attack the problem at hand, it is the person who is attacked. Ephesians 4:15-19 says we are to speak the truth in love and use our words to build others up, not allow rotten or destructive words to pour from our lips. Unfortunately, this poisonous speech is a common characteristic of fallen man (Romans 3:13-14). Anger becomes sin when it is allowed to boil over without restraint, resulting in a scenario in which hurt is multiplied (Proverbs 29:11), leaving devastation in its wake, often with irreparable consequences. Anger also becomes sin when the angry one refuses to be pacified, holds a grudge, or keeps it all inside (Ephesians 4:26-27). This can cause depression and irritability over little things, often things unrelated to the underlying problem.

We can handle anger biblically by recognizing and admitting our selfish anger and/or our wrong handling of anger as sin (Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:9). This confession should be both to God and to those who have been hurt by our anger. We should not minimize the sin by excusing it or blame-shifting.

We can handle anger biblically by seeing God in the trial. This is especially important when people have done something to offend us. James 1:2-4, Romans 8:28-29, and Genesis 50:20 all point to the fact that God is sovereign and in complete control over every circumstance and person that enters our path. Nothing happens to us that He does not cause or allow. And as these verses share, God is a good God (Psalm 145:8, 9, 17) who allows all things in our lives for our good and the good of others. Reflecting on this truth until it moves from our heads to our hearts will alter how we react to those who hurt us.

We can handle anger biblically by making room for God’s wrath. This is especially important in cases of injustice, when “evil” men abuse “innocent” people. Genesis 50:19 and Romans 12:19 both tell us to not play God. God is righteous and just, and we can trust Him who knows all and sees all to act justly (Genesis 18:25).

We can handle anger biblically by returning good for evil (Genesis 50:21; Romans 12:21). This is key to converting our anger into love. As our actions flow from our hearts, so also our hearts can be altered by our actions (Matthew 5:43-48). That is, we can change our feelings toward another by changing how we choose to act toward that person.

We can handle anger biblically by communicating to solve the problem. There are four basic rules of communication shared in Ephesians 4:15, 25-32:

1) Be honest and speak (Ephesians 4:15, 25). People cannot read our minds. We must speak the truth in love.

2) Stay current (Ephesians 4:26-27). We must not allow what is bothering us to build up until we lose control. Dealing with and sharing what is bothering us before it gets to that point is important.

3) Attack the problem, not the person (Ephesians 4:29, 31). Along this line, we must remember the importance of keeping the volume of our voices low (Proverbs 15:1).

4) Act, not react (Ephesians 4:31-32). Because of our fallen nature, our first impulse is often a sinful one (v. 31). The time spent in “counting to ten” should be used to reflect upon the godly way to respond (v. 32) and to remind ourselves how anger is to be used to solve problems and not create bigger ones.

Finally, we must act to solve our part of the problem (Romans 12:18). We cannot control how others act or respond, but we can make the changes that need to be made on our part. Overcoming a temper is not accomplished overnight. But through prayer, Bible study, and reliance upon God’s Holy Spirit, ungodly anger can be overcome. Just as we may have allowed anger to become entrenched in our lives by habitual practice, we must also practice responding correctly until it becomes a habit itself.

This article was taken from Got Questions. Org.

“There’s a reading that’s fundamental, it’s also detrimental to your spiritual growth.” Those are the words Ronnie uses to open today’s video.

Something is wrong with my earphones today. I couldn’t hear all of Ronnie’s video.

While cooking Sunday dinner and slicing the vegetables I thought, “Ah.” I remember those opening words to the video.

“There’s a reading that’s fundamental, it’s also detrimental to your spiritual growth.”

Cutting onions, bell peppers and other vegetables are very fundamental to cooking. I barely give it much thought. But this day, I realize something from rolling his words around in my mind. I realize that when I open God’s Word to grow closer to Him, when I split God’s Word right open I am always cut to the quick.

I thank God for showing me that just like when I want to turn a meal around . . . make it tasty . . . better for consumption . . . healthier . . . the first thing I do is grab the knife and cutter board and I began to split open, cut things to their core.

I cut in order to get the best results. Likewise, when we want to turn our lives around, when we need to change, need a bit of flavor, a little color, we need to open our Bible—read God’s holy Word to allow it to peel back our layers. Cut us to the core. It is with this realization that I nod my head in letting the savor of truth permeate me. “Eat this book” I think, as I stand at the stove stirring the meat and gravy.

I understand that just as cooking and eating dinner is very fundamental, it can also be detrimental to our physical growth if we ignore it. So his words echo again in my mind’s ear, Ronnie’s words. “There’s a reading that’s fundamental, it’s also detrimental to your spiritual growth.”

“Food leads us to bodily form. How we read Scripture leads to our spiritual formation,” I think. “I am what I eat.”

Reading, as it were, puts the solid food into our mouths, meditation chews it and breaks it down, prayer obtains the flavor of it and contemplation is the very sweetness which makes us glad and refreshes us” ~ Guigo

What if this year we ate less and savored more,” I tell my family as we sit down for dinner?

“So that God could form us,” I say.

I pray thanking God for the hearing of that opening statement and for the breakdown of the earphones, then I say, “Lord let me read, meditate, pray, and most importantly, live out what I consume when I partake in the Bread of Heaven. Allow me to let it form me and remind me to chew it slowly, to savor it.

If a Christian is to be successful he must make the gospel the core message of his life, and he must even put this message before himself,” says Ronnie Roque of Who Me Be A Leader?

When I think about formula’s I immediately think of  babies, feedings . . . eating, consuming and nourishment.  We consume and give nourishment for proper weight and development for ourselves and the ones whom we are feeding.

Rarely will we find parents who choose any old formula or food for their babies.  No.  Parents think about things such as the right amount of protein and carbohydrates, liquids, powder, ready-to-feed formulas, the manufacturers—where the formula came from and so on.

In today’s video, Ronnie shares a formula with you.  But this formula isn’t any kind of formula either.  We know who the manufacturer of this formula is.  You see the one giving the instructions on how to consume this formula loves the one who has given him the means and the ways to instruct us on how to eat, and be a partaker.  This particular formula is so unique, in fact, that not all will consume it or even see the importance of it. It goes against our natural tendencies and against what the world says we must do in order to be a success.

For those who want to know the true meaning of success and want the right way to go about it, this is the formula to ingest  because it is sure to help you in your goal to be successful if you consume it properly.

Please listen to the video to learn about Paul’s success formula based on 11 Timothy 1:1 and while listening men, you may want to think on Ronnie’s challenge and “re-evaluate what you think success is.”

” Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.  The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” ~ Genesis 2:22-24

Hi friends of Who Me Be A Leader?  Today we have another surprise to share with you and one that is certainly going to surprise Ronnie.  Today April 29th is Ronnie and his wife Daphne’s wedding anniversary, and Daphne wants to share her tribute to her husband with you all—knowing that his heart is truly for this ministry.  We ask that you sit back and enjoy the pictures and the write up that Daphne is sharing. As always we would love your comments so please make Daphne feel right at home sharing and wish both of them a very happy anniversary.

Daphne says— “I have found the one whom my soul loves. And he is wholly desirable. This is my beloved and this is my friend.” Song of Solomon 3:4a, 5:16b. Seventeen years ago, April 29, 1995, I married my beloved and my best friend. But our journey together began many years before that when I was just 17 yrs old. I walked into the gym and I will say from that point forward my life was never the same. Ronnie and I met there and over time developed a friendship like no other. We worked out together everyday and I honestly couldn’t get enough of him. The talks we would have were deep and I remember clearly something moving within my soul and knowing without a doubt I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. A number of years later Ronnie’s brother invited us to a new church that was just starting up. It was exciting because we both knew that we were not living in God’s will at the time and He brought this church into our lives right when we needed it. Amazing things happened. When Ronnie became exposed to God’s Word and began to be discipled, there was a supernatural change that occurred within him. He soaked up God’s Word like a sponge. Then over time, God blessed him with an amazing gift, to teach His Word and reach people at their level, with a sincere and genuine heart. Sharing with them what God had done for him. God has used his openness and love for the Word to bless countless people. Here I am today reminiscing about our lives these many years together. I won’t lie and say it has all been great. We have traveled through some deep valleys and experienced the bliss of many mountain tops. In many ways we defeated the odds. Through it all I never doubted that I was born to be Ronnie’s wife. Ronnie, I want you to know how proud I am of you. You are an amazing husband, father and man. You make sacrifices everyday for me and our family and you truly are an inspiration. You will forever be the one whom my soul loves, my beloved and my friend. Happy Anniversary, I Love You. Daphne

May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe a graceful deer-may her breast satisfy you always, may you be captivated by her love. ~ Proverbs 5:18-19

Success begins with our foundation in Jesus Christ, says, Ronnie Roque of Who Me Be a Leader?, and true success Ronnie says is having a well-balanced, priority based thought through plan.

Below are a few points from the video, Well-done success, that Ronnie shares in helping Christian me gauge their true, spiritual, success.

  • Am I actively helping my family grow in their faith in Christ
  • Am I making a significant contribution to my children
  • Am I doing everything possible to help my children become responsible adults

We all know people who have every reason to be happy, but they are not.  Likewise, we all know people who have reason to complain but they don’t.” ~ Pat Morely

Talk about something that goes against our natural human tendencies. . .


We’ll get to that in a bit.

Today Ronnie talks to us about “success sickness,” he reads it as being this “Success sickness is a disease of wanting more, but never being happy when you get it.”

In 2 Peter 1: 6-7, Peter says, “For by these he has granted to us His precious and magnificent promises, so that by them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world by lust.”

The power to grow doesn’t come from within us, rather it comes from God. We in and of ourselves don’t have the power to grow. What God does though is allow us—the believer, to become partakers of His divine nature “in order to keep us from sin and He helps us live for Him this way.”

Faith, however, must be more than us believing. Our faith has to be met with the display of our actions. Hence we manifest our Christian growth in character of our moral disciplines. If we don’t practice this, it will die away.

The list that Peter gives is a reflection of our faith in action:

  • Learning to know God better
  • developing perseverance
  • doing God’s will
  • loving others

These actions don’t come to us naturally, they require hard work on our part.  Hard they may be, but it doesn’t negate the fact that they are not OPTIONAL.  They must all be a continual part of our Christian walk.  We don’t finish one of these and then start on another one.  No.  Instead we work on them ALL TOGETHER.
God empowers and enables us, yet He makes the responsibility of the DOING . . . learning . . . growing . . .ours.
We should not be surprised at our resentfulness at times of this process.  It goes against our natural inclinations