Depress makes you stress, dealing with holiday season depression

Posted: December 7, 2011 in God
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Much has been made about ‘men problems.’  You can hear about it on Oprah, you can read about it in Time.  Everyone is concerned about it.  Many address the consequence of it, yet very few people are doing anything that will change the root of it.’

No man fails on purpose, yet our society is wrought with the results.  And our well intentioned solutions often don’t deal with the root issue.

Stress and depression can ruin your holiday’s as well as your health.  As young boys we’re sometimes given the subliminal message that we shouldn’t share our feelings—we need to be strong, and strong boys don’t cry.

Sadly we carry this belief around for years, suppressing our true feelings, until one day it all becomes too much and we find ourselves sinking emotionally low.

In today’s video and the ones that will follow, Ronnie talks about depression. Before he goes in depth with it, he thought it would be fitting to first address depression as it pertains to the holiday season with us being in the midst of the festivities.

Sadness is truly a personal and individualized emotion.  What makes you sad doesn’t necessarily make me sad and vice-versa.  From my understanding, the typical sources of holiday sadness include : stress, fatigue, unrealistic expectations, financial stress, and the inability to be with family and friends.

Couple all of the above with the demands of shopping, parties, obligation and house guest, and one begins to understand why some become overwhelmed and experience the increase tension of stress.

For those of you who might not view yourselves as “depressed” your stress responders may be:

  • headaches
  • excessive drinking
  • over-eating
  • and difficulty sleeping

Before I go any further, I’d like to say, “Men it’s okay to share your feelings,” whatever they may be.

 

Men and depression

 

Here are some practical tips to ward off some things that may be causing you stress:

  • Acknowledge your feelings
  • Be realistic
  • Set aside differences
  • Stick to a budget
  • Plan ahead
  • Learn to say no
  • Don’t abandon healthy habits
  • Be sure to take breaks
  • And if need be, seek professional help

Please remember during the hustle and bustle that comes with this season that if you’re one prone to depression to be realistic in your planning, and to seek or have your support system in place before they are actually needed.

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