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The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel.” ~ Proverbs 12:15

Most men are long rangers, says Ronnie Roque, founder of Who me be a leader, the word counsel is like a slap in the face to them.”

What is it that keeps a fool from being wise?

His way is right in his own eyes. He thinks he is in the right in everything he does, and therefore asks no advice, because he does not apprehend he needs it. He is confident he knows the way, and cannot miss it, and therefore never inquires the way. The rule he goes by is to do that which is right in his own eyes, to walk in the way of his heart. He makes his will his law. He is a fool that is governed by his eye, and not by his conscience.

What it is that keeps a wise man from being a fool?

He is willing to be advised, desires to have counsel given him, and heeds and gives attention to counsel—what has been said, being reserved and restrained in manner when it comes to his own judgment and having a value for the direction of those that are wise and good. He is wise (it is a sign he is so, and he is likely to continue so) whose ear is always open to good advice.

To learn more about a wise man please watch Ronnie’s Youtube video.”

Excerpts taken and revised from Matthew Henry Commentator.

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“Yes,” life coach and Biblical counselor Ronnie Roque says that you are accountable for your brother.

Scripture says in Galatians 6:1-6, “Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.

Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone things he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But each one must examine his own work, and then he will have reason for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another. For each one will bear his own load.”


In this video, Ronnie shares that it is his desire for every professing Christian man to be trained.

How does a man become trained?  Watch the video as Ronnie gives you three steps to becoming a trained man.

“Our job as teachers is to explain the Bible, not explain it away.  A great Bible teacher is not a great teacher of the Bible, but a teacher of the great Bible  We use Scripture to explain our experience, not our experience to explain Scripture.  Without the Bible to guide you every path not obviously evil will seem obvious worth while.” ~ Patrick Morley {quoted by Ronnie Roque}

Three steps to becoming trained:

  1. Daily reading of the Bible
  2. Study the Bible
  3. Trust the Word of God
“And remember a life unexamined is a life not worth living.” 

Today is comment day!  That’s where  Ronnie gathers the weekly comments and address you, our dear readers, in a video.  In today’s video he goes a bit into explaining why he feels men are untrained.  It’s a really good piece.  I encourage you all to listen.

The second video is Patrick Morley talking about an offer that he has for men

and he has asked for our help and yours in doing so.  Please take a listen to both videos.  You’re sure to be blessed.

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How would you like a career helping to disciple 1,000 or more new men each year in your community? We’re looking for 330 special men who  are passionate about Christ and men’s discipleship for the newly created and exclusive position of Area Director.

If selected—and we’ve set the bar high—we’ll help position you as the “go to” guy in your community for men’s discipleship. So whether a church wants to know how to more effectively disciple all their men using our “all-inclusive” approach, have you consult on why their church is stuck, or merely ask you to recommend a resource for their small groups—you’ll be the men’s discipleship expert to whom they turn for help.

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We’ll train you in every aspect of what we’ve learned in 25 years of fine-tuning men’s discipleship (see the actual church growth results here). We’ll teach you how to build a local team of like-minded men’s leaders, how to start with a big splash so the whole church community knows you’re there, how to assemble an investor team, how to train church leaders to build sustainable ministries, and how to lay the groundwork for a spiritual renewal and awakening in the community you love.

To continue reading please go to Man in the mirror

For more details about this unique opportunity please visit Patrick Morley’s site, Man in the mirror

Patrick Morley books:

1.  The man in the mirror

2.  No man left behind

3.   A man’s guide to spiritual discipline

4.  A man’s guide to work

5.   Pastoring men

6.  Man alive

Ronnie Roque continues his teaching from Patrick Morley’s book, ‘Pastoring men.’  In this particular video, Ronnie talks about the importance of a man being adequately trained giving reference to 2 Tim. 3:16 .  Mr. Roque feels that a man is trained properly in the area of discipleship when he is capable of leading himself spiritually first and foremost.”

On the other hand, he feels that an untrained man or rather a man who isn’t discipled has problems with taking his issues before God.  This man professes to know the Lord, but has yet become comfortable in going to him on his own behalf.

“Spiritual reformation of society starts with a spiritual reformation of men,” Ronnie quotes.

What does a disciple look like you may be asking?   “A disciple is called to walk with Christ, equip to look like Christ, and sent to work for Christ,” he goes on to say.

Points to remember:

  • We can give men what they need if instead of looking at the data, we look at  God’s direction.
  •  An untrained Christian is no better  off than an unskilled laborer a high school drop out.  He simply won’t enjoy as much of the abundant life as a man who has been discipled.

Steps to becoming a trained man by Patrick Morley

What is a Quiet Time?

In our Christian culture we hear a lot mentioned about a device called “the quiet time”. A quiet time is a routine period, usually at the beginning or end of the day, in which five, fifteen, thirty minutes, an hour or more are set aside to read and study God’s Word, pray, and possibly perform other spiritual disciplines. For example, sometimes I sing hymns (no one besides God would want to hear), journal or read devotional materials.

Actually, the Bible calls for continual prayer and Bible meditation. “Pray continually” (1 Thess.5:17). “Pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests” (Eph. 6:18). “His delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night” (Psalm 1:2).

The quiet time, then, is an accommodation to an overly busy culture. Nevertheless, the concept of setting aside a regular time for concentrated meeting with the Lord can greatly enhance anyone’s walk with God. In fact, without it, it is questionable if you can really have an ongoing relationship with Christ.

How much time should you devote to daily quiet time? If you don’t already have a quiet time, why not consider giving five minutes a day to read one chapter of the New Testament (read one chapter a day five days a week and you will complete the 260 chapters of the New Testament in one year). Then, say a prayer like The Lord’s Prayer, or you could use the ACTS acrostic (A-adoration, C-confession, T-thanksgiving, S-supplication). Consider setting a maximum time limit for devotional life, rather than a minimum. This will keep down the guilt. Later, if you want to increase the time you spend, fine. Many spend 15 or 30 minutes. It is not uncommon for some to devote an hour, and some invest as much as two hours. But start with a realistic goal. The best length of time is the one you will actually do. Don’t bite off more than you will chew.

How often should you have a quiet time? Shoot for five days a week. Don’t expect to make it every day (allowing for early morning meetings, glitches, etc.) You wouldn’t expect to eat once or twice a week and be healthy. Neither can you feed your spirit only once or twice a week and expect spiritual health.

When and where should you have a quiet time? Pick the time of day that you are most alert-your quality time. Give God your peak concentration. Also, it’s probably best to have a routine time and place. It’s the same principle your mother taught you about your schoolwork.

What if you don’t feel like having a quiet time? From time to time I don’t “feel” like listening and speaking to God-but I do it anyway. What if God said, “I don’t feel like meeting with you today either.” You would think he doesn’t love you very much. Whenever a man tells me that he doesn’t feel very close to God the first question I ask is, “Tell me about your devotional life.” Often the problem is just there. If you don’t feel like meeting with God, I suggest you substitute discipline for a lack of natural interest. In time the “feelings” and natural interest will return.

Since the two principal activities of a quiet time are reading the Bible and prayer, let’s look more closely at these two.

Reading The Bible

The Bible is God speaking to man. The Bible communicates the truth of God to men in search of ultimate reality. The God who is, is revealed in Scripture. The Bible, then, is the starting point of a life with God. He is rich who dwells upon God’s Word. Psalm 19: 7-11 says this:

The law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul. The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple. The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the LORD are radiant, giving light to the eyes. The fear of the LORD is pure, enduring forever. The ordinances of the LORD are sure and altogether righteous. They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb. By them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward.

A friend in the publishing business tells me that only 30% of college graduates never read a book again after graduation. Reading and study have largely been replaced by television and video. For the Christian, however, reading and study open the door to communication from God.

Frankly, after more than twenty years of following Christ, I find I no longer read my Bible. My Bible reads me. On its crinkly pages I see myself-my motives, my ambitions, my longings, my pain, my sufferings, my sins, my hope, my joy. As the rustling pages turn I see God-His love, His forgiveness, His birth, His death, His resurrection, His sovereignty, His holiness, His character. I love my Bible. I love the Bible because I don’t have to worry about receiving “flash updates” or corrective bulletins.” I don’t have to worry about factory “recall.” I don’t have to be concerned about whether or not a “retraction” will appear in tomorrow’s version. I love my Bible because it is true, and truth doesn’t change. In a world awash with change, I’m glad to have an anchor, a solid rock upon which to build my life.

Prayer

Prayer is man speaking to God. God wants us to pray. Prayer is how we communicate with God.

When a friend of mine became deathly ill with cancer, another friend asked me how he was doing. “He’s a very sick boy,” I said. “I guess the only thing we can do is pray.”

“No,” he corrected. “The thing we can do is pray.” What gave his statement added authority was that he offered this advice just six months after his own wife of 26 years had died from cancer. Another friend was going through a crisis at work. “I’ve tried everything I can think of. I guess I’ll pray.”

Why is prayer often the last thing we do and not the first? Why don’t we pray more? First, we don’t pray because we’re not sure that prayer really works. If we really believed God hears and answers our prayers, we would pray all the time. If we really understood prayer, it would be the principal habit of our hearts. It would be our first resort, not our last.

Second, prayer is hard work. One day I was in the car with Bill and Vonette Bright. At the time Vonette was the chair of National Day of Prayer-she even got Congress to make it a law! I nearly ran off the road when she said, “Prayer is hard work. Sometimes I find it hard to concentrate. My mind wanders.” Well, I already knew that was true for me! But I didn’t know it was true for one of the world’s great prayers! What an encouragement! Prayer is hard work. At times it’s hard to stay focused. Also, no one holds us accountable to pray.

Prayer is the currency of our personal relationship with Jesus. However, it does us no good if we leave it on account. We must make a withdrawal and spend some of it through prayer. Pray with a pencil-the benefits of seeing how God has worked will be well worth the efforts.

Prayer changes things. However, God doesn’t answer petitions that are not presented. If we go about solving our challenges in our own strength, we rob God of the glory He wants for Himself. He would rather us come humbly before the throne of His grace so that He can give us mercy and help in our times of need.

Prayer changes us. Prayer breaks strongholds. Prayer determines the destinies of men, their families, their communities, and their nations. Only an army of men on their knees can turn the destiny of America back to God. It’s time for us to get on our knees and fight like real men!

Reflection and Application

1. How important is Bible Study? Can you think of any other way to become a Biblical Christian other than by studying the Bible? I can honestly say that I have never known a man whose life has changed in any significant way apart from the regular study of God’s Word. Why not consider making a commitment to study God’s Word as an exercise of spiritual discipline?

For example, in our quiet time you could read a chapter a day from the New Testament as already mentioned. Or, you can purchase a one year plan to ready through the Bible at your Christian bookstore. Personally, each year I read through The One Year Bible in a different version- it only takes 10 to 20 minutes a day. If you want accelerated growth, read your Bible with a pen and pad nearby. Write down questions about passages you don’t understand. Then ask your pastor or a Bible teacher what God meant in those passages.

2. What is your prayer life like? Is prayer a significant part of your life? Do you sense a close, personal communion with Jesus when you pray? Or is your prayer life more limited, mechanical and unrewarding?

3. What kind of commitment do you currently have to a quiet time with Bible reading and prayer? What kind of commitment are you prepared to make? This may be one of the most important decisions you will ever make.

To read this article in its orignial writing please visit Patrick Morely’s blog: Man in the Mirror.

Please view the trailer to Patrick Morley’s new book: Man Alive

“Just past noon on January 15, 1929, a son was born to the Reverend and Mrs. Martin Luther King, Sr., in an upstairs bedroom of 501 Auburn Avenue in Atlanta, Georgia.  It was in these surroundings of home, church {Ebenezer Baptist Church}, and neighborhood {sweet Auburn} that “M.L.” experienced family and Christian love, segregation and in the days to come “Jim Crow” laws, diligence and tolerance.” ~ NPS Gov

Someone asked me if I thought Martin Luther King, Jr., was a champ.

I said, “Yes because he wasn’t afraid to speak; he wasn’t afraid to stand, he knew his destiny, yet, he did all that he did without violence and that’s why I believe God still honors Dr. King’s legacy this many years after his death.”

It is with great honor that I post the video of Martin Luther Kings famous speech, “I have a dream.”

The pictures in the slideshow are the property of:

History.com

Sites dedicated to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.:

Martin Luther King, Jr., and the global freedom struggle

The Nobel Peace Prize, 1964

Youtube video of house where Dr. King was born

NPS Gov

Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.”  That being said, then the only way for a man to lead others effectively is by him taking his birthright seriously and leading himself first.

In this video I talk about getting back to the basics by strengthening your walk, being alert and standing firm in your faith.

Scriptures for further reading:

1.  1 Peter 5:8 – Be of sober spirit and be on the alert because you have an adversary trying to crush you.

2.  Ephesians 6:11- Put on the full armor of God,so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.

3.  1 Corin. 16:13- Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.

Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires… courage. Ralph Waldo

 

In this video Ronnie talks about the danger of letting things slide. Failure come in many different ways. One way is being passive. This passivity leads us to falling as men and the ones that suffer are our families. Men, I want to challenge you to have the guts to make the hard choice to do what is right for the benefit of the kingdom and your family.  But first you need to know the difference: if you never know what wrong is, then how will you know what is right?

One of the most tragic things we can do as a Christian is to let our thoughts go unchecked. Another thing I know from my own life is that a thought can hold you captive to the point that  you are unable to move forward in life. This is why the Bible tells us to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ in 2 Cor 10:5. The challenge I have for each man is to get up each day and examine your thoughts. This way you will not have to speculate on what God wants from you.

From Charles Swindoll:

As the Spirit of God attempts to communicate His truth to us, He runs up against the “wall” of our overall mental attitude, our natural mind-set. Along with the wall-like fortresses, we have natural, humanistic reasonings that give the wall additional strength.

I’m thinking of those defense mechanisms, rationalizations, and other thinking patterns that are habitual to us. In Romans 2:15 we read of two such “guards” – blaming and justifying.

As the Lord God pushes His truth to enter (and thus “renew”) our minds, our habitual reflex “guards” the entrance of such alien thoughts! This explains why there is often such a battle that rages when biblical truth is introduced into a mind that has been walled and guarded by years of secularized thinking. We defend the old rather that consider and accept the new.

This could have happened in your own mind when you read what the Scriptures teach on forgiveness. It also may occur when you read what the Bible teaches us to do when we have offended someone. More than likely, you found yourself resisting and defending. I certainly did when I first discovered those truths! We would much rather blame the other person than accept our responsibility. Our “speculations” work like that. They put up a guard against change, causing us to rationalize and justify our actions.

Accompanying the resistance of our internal wall and guards are “lofty things” that reinforce our defense system from within (2 cor 10:5). It’s the idea of a thing lifted up or exalted.

What comes to your mind right now? How about pride? And those things pride prompts: argumentation, an unteachable spirit, stubbornness, and refusal to change. Is that striking a nerve yet?

As the principles of the Scriptures are declared, our natural, unrenewed minds not only resist them, they ask, “Who needs that?” or “I’ve gotten along pretty good up ’til now.” These are the lofty things that are “raised up against the knowledge of God,” as Paul put it (2 Cor 10:5).

We need to destroy those things . . . . . before they destroy us.

Excerpted from “Improving Your Serve: The Art of Unselfish Living.” 1981, by Charles Swindoll

Proverbs 23:7 says: “For as a man thinks within himself, so he is.”

As I travel around to different places and talk to men from all walks of like, the one thing that is clear is that men don’t like to think about deep stuff such as God’s agenda for their home. We think more about things than we do about people. Proverbs 13:22 says a good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children. I think as men we need to be more about God’s business than our own.

Everyone that has visited this blog long enough knows that Chuck Swindoll is one of my favorite teachers and he has a three part devotion called “Mental Barriers to God’s Voice”, based on 2 Cor 10:1-7. As you read it, I would like you to think about what mental blocks you may have that are keeping you away from God.

Mental Barriers to God’s Voice, Part 1

When the world tries to squeeze us into its mold, God’s message gets muffled. Our minds pick up on the strong secular signals so easily that we subconsciously tune Him out. It comes naturally.

In ancient days, a city, in order to prosper, needed a security system to protect it from enemy attack. Of primary importance was a wall which restrained enemy troops from invading and which also served as a major means of defense in battle. Guards needed to be on constant watch from their sentinel posts on the wall. There needed to be towers within the city high enough for those inside to see over the wall. And finally, at the time of attack, men of military savvy and battle knowledge were needed to give orders and to direct the troops in the heat of combat from within the protection of those towers.

Paul drew a series of analogies from that familiar scene of his day… but remember, he’s not dealing with a city but rather with our minds. The passage in 2 Corinthians 10:1-7 sets forth a vivid description of the mental barriers that block out God’s directives and His counsel. Look closely. Paul uses four terms that we need to understand. If you have a pencil handy, circle each in your Bible:    fortresses….. speculations….. lofty things….. thought.

As the Spirit of God attempts to communicate His truth to us (biblical information on servanthood, for example), He runs up against our “wall,” our overall mental attitude, our natural mind-set. For some, it’s prejudice. With others, it’s limited thinking or a negative mentality. Whatever it is, it’s a huge mental barrier that resists divine input just as firmly as a massive stone wall once resisted invading troops.

We all have our fortresses. And occasionally we get downright obnoxious as we operate under the control of our “walled fortresses.” Need a good example?

A vagrant was looking for a handout in a picturesque old English village. Hungry almost to the point of fainting, he stopped by a pub bearing the classic name, “Inn of St. George and the Dragon.”

“Please ma’am, could you spare me a bite to eat?” he asked the lady who answered his knock at the kitchen door.

“A bite to eat?” she growled. “For a sorry, no-good bum – a foul-smelling beggar? No!” she snapped as  she almost slammed the door on his hand.

Halfway down the lane the tramp stopped, turned around, and eyed the words, “St. George and the Dragon”. He went back and knocked again on the kitchen door.

“Now what do you want?” the woman gruffed.

“Well, ma’am, if  St George is in, may I speak with him this time?”