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The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel.” ~ Proverbs 12:15

Most men are long rangers, says Ronnie Roque, founder of Who me be a leader, the word counsel is like a slap in the face to them.”

What is it that keeps a fool from being wise?

His way is right in his own eyes. He thinks he is in the right in everything he does, and therefore asks no advice, because he does not apprehend he needs it. He is confident he knows the way, and cannot miss it, and therefore never inquires the way. The rule he goes by is to do that which is right in his own eyes, to walk in the way of his heart. He makes his will his law. He is a fool that is governed by his eye, and not by his conscience.

What it is that keeps a wise man from being a fool?

He is willing to be advised, desires to have counsel given him, and heeds and gives attention to counsel—what has been said, being reserved and restrained in manner when it comes to his own judgment and having a value for the direction of those that are wise and good. He is wise (it is a sign he is so, and he is likely to continue so) whose ear is always open to good advice.

To learn more about a wise man please watch Ronnie’s Youtube video.”

Excerpts taken and revised from Matthew Henry Commentator.

“As many as 300 million women each year are abused,” says vlogger Ronnie Roque. “I believe that anger is a gender issue,” he says.


Ronnie believes that most women get angry, mostly, by what’s being done to them. “Not that women don’t get angry,” he says.

“Men, on the other hand, become angry by what isn’t BEING DONE FOR THEM.”

Friends, as Ronnie Roque points out anger comes in many forms and it is an emotion that we all are affective by. What matters is first the recognition of it and learning to deal with it appropriately.

This title couldn’t be more fitting because it is true, “Anger denied is anger that is alive.”

Below is an article that Ronnie thought would be fitting to sum up what he talks about in this particular video. This is a video, you won’t wanna miss.

Let’s see what the Bible says about anger:

Question: “What does the Bible say about anger?”

Answer: Handling anger is an important topic. Christian counselors report that 50 percent of people who come in for counseling have problems dealing with anger. Anger can shatter communication and tear apart relationships, and it ruins both the joy and health of many. Sadly, people tend to justify their anger instead of accepting responsibility for it. Everyone struggles, to varying degrees, with anger. Thankfully, God’s Word contains principles regarding how to handle anger in a godly manner, and how to overcome sinful anger.

Anger is not always sin. There is a type of anger of which the Bible approves, often called “righteous indignation.” God is angry (Psalm 7:11; Mark 3:5), and believers are commanded to be angry (Ephesians 4:26). Two Greek words are used in the New Testament for our English word “anger.” One means “passion, energy” and the other means “agitated, boiling.” Biblically, anger is God-given energy intended to help us solve problems. Examples of biblical anger include Paul’s confronting Peter because of his wrong example in Galatians 2:11-14, David’s being upset over hearing Nathan the prophet sharing an injustice (2 Samuel 12), and Jesus’ anger over how some of the Jews had defiled worship at God’s temple in Jerusalem (John 2:13-18). Notice that none of these examples of anger involved self-defense, but a defense of others or of a principle.

Anger turns to sin when it is selfishly motivated (James 1:20), when God’s goal is distorted (1 Corinthians 10:31), or when anger is allowed to linger (Ephesians 4:26-27). Instead of using the energy generated by anger to attack the problem at hand, it is the person who is attacked. Ephesians 4:15-19 says we are to speak the truth in love and use our words to build others up, not allow rotten or destructive words to pour from our lips. Unfortunately, this poisonous speech is a common characteristic of fallen man (Romans 3:13-14). Anger becomes sin when it is allowed to boil over without restraint, resulting in a scenario in which hurt is multiplied (Proverbs 29:11), leaving devastation in its wake, often with irreparable consequences. Anger also becomes sin when the angry one refuses to be pacified, holds a grudge, or keeps it all inside (Ephesians 4:26-27). This can cause depression and irritability over little things, often things unrelated to the underlying problem.

We can handle anger biblically by recognizing and admitting our selfish anger and/or our wrong handling of anger as sin (Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:9). This confession should be both to God and to those who have been hurt by our anger. We should not minimize the sin by excusing it or blame-shifting.

We can handle anger biblically by seeing God in the trial. This is especially important when people have done something to offend us. James 1:2-4, Romans 8:28-29, and Genesis 50:20 all point to the fact that God is sovereign and in complete control over every circumstance and person that enters our path. Nothing happens to us that He does not cause or allow. And as these verses share, God is a good God (Psalm 145:8, 9, 17) who allows all things in our lives for our good and the good of others. Reflecting on this truth until it moves from our heads to our hearts will alter how we react to those who hurt us.

We can handle anger biblically by making room for God’s wrath. This is especially important in cases of injustice, when “evil” men abuse “innocent” people. Genesis 50:19 and Romans 12:19 both tell us to not play God. God is righteous and just, and we can trust Him who knows all and sees all to act justly (Genesis 18:25).

We can handle anger biblically by returning good for evil (Genesis 50:21; Romans 12:21). This is key to converting our anger into love. As our actions flow from our hearts, so also our hearts can be altered by our actions (Matthew 5:43-48). That is, we can change our feelings toward another by changing how we choose to act toward that person.

We can handle anger biblically by communicating to solve the problem. There are four basic rules of communication shared in Ephesians 4:15, 25-32:

1) Be honest and speak (Ephesians 4:15, 25). People cannot read our minds. We must speak the truth in love.

2) Stay current (Ephesians 4:26-27). We must not allow what is bothering us to build up until we lose control. Dealing with and sharing what is bothering us before it gets to that point is important.

3) Attack the problem, not the person (Ephesians 4:29, 31). Along this line, we must remember the importance of keeping the volume of our voices low (Proverbs 15:1).

4) Act, not react (Ephesians 4:31-32). Because of our fallen nature, our first impulse is often a sinful one (v. 31). The time spent in “counting to ten” should be used to reflect upon the godly way to respond (v. 32) and to remind ourselves how anger is to be used to solve problems and not create bigger ones.

Finally, we must act to solve our part of the problem (Romans 12:18). We cannot control how others act or respond, but we can make the changes that need to be made on our part. Overcoming a temper is not accomplished overnight. But through prayer, Bible study, and reliance upon God’s Holy Spirit, ungodly anger can be overcome. Just as we may have allowed anger to become entrenched in our lives by habitual practice, we must also practice responding correctly until it becomes a habit itself.

This article was taken from Got Questions. Org.

“There’s a reading that’s fundamental, it’s also detrimental to your spiritual growth.” Those are the words Ronnie uses to open today’s video.

Something is wrong with my earphones today. I couldn’t hear all of Ronnie’s video.

While cooking Sunday dinner and slicing the vegetables I thought, “Ah.” I remember those opening words to the video.

“There’s a reading that’s fundamental, it’s also detrimental to your spiritual growth.”

Cutting onions, bell peppers and other vegetables are very fundamental to cooking. I barely give it much thought. But this day, I realize something from rolling his words around in my mind. I realize that when I open God’s Word to grow closer to Him, when I split God’s Word right open I am always cut to the quick.

I thank God for showing me that just like when I want to turn a meal around . . . make it tasty . . . better for consumption . . . healthier . . . the first thing I do is grab the knife and cutter board and I began to split open, cut things to their core.

I cut in order to get the best results. Likewise, when we want to turn our lives around, when we need to change, need a bit of flavor, a little color, we need to open our Bible—read God’s holy Word to allow it to peel back our layers. Cut us to the core. It is with this realization that I nod my head in letting the savor of truth permeate me. “Eat this book” I think, as I stand at the stove stirring the meat and gravy.

I understand that just as cooking and eating dinner is very fundamental, it can also be detrimental to our physical growth if we ignore it. So his words echo again in my mind’s ear, Ronnie’s words. “There’s a reading that’s fundamental, it’s also detrimental to your spiritual growth.”

“Food leads us to bodily form. How we read Scripture leads to our spiritual formation,” I think. “I am what I eat.”

Reading, as it were, puts the solid food into our mouths, meditation chews it and breaks it down, prayer obtains the flavor of it and contemplation is the very sweetness which makes us glad and refreshes us” ~ Guigo

What if this year we ate less and savored more,” I tell my family as we sit down for dinner?

“So that God could form us,” I say.

I pray thanking God for the hearing of that opening statement and for the breakdown of the earphones, then I say, “Lord let me read, meditate, pray, and most importantly, live out what I consume when I partake in the Bread of Heaven. Allow me to let it form me and remind me to chew it slowly, to savor it.

If a Christian is to be successful he must make the gospel the core message of his life, and he must even put this message before himself,” says Ronnie Roque of Who Me Be A Leader?

When I think about formula’s I immediately think of  babies, feedings . . . eating, consuming and nourishment.  We consume and give nourishment for proper weight and development for ourselves and the ones whom we are feeding.

Rarely will we find parents who choose any old formula or food for their babies.  No.  Parents think about things such as the right amount of protein and carbohydrates, liquids, powder, ready-to-feed formulas, the manufacturers—where the formula came from and so on.

In today’s video, Ronnie shares a formula with you.  But this formula isn’t any kind of formula either.  We know who the manufacturer of this formula is.  You see the one giving the instructions on how to consume this formula loves the one who has given him the means and the ways to instruct us on how to eat, and be a partaker.  This particular formula is so unique, in fact, that not all will consume it or even see the importance of it. It goes against our natural tendencies and against what the world says we must do in order to be a success.

For those who want to know the true meaning of success and want the right way to go about it, this is the formula to ingest  because it is sure to help you in your goal to be successful if you consume it properly.

Please listen to the video to learn about Paul’s success formula based on 11 Timothy 1:1 and while listening men, you may want to think on Ronnie’s challenge and “re-evaluate what you think success is.”

Success begins with our foundation in Jesus Christ, says, Ronnie Roque of Who Me Be a Leader?, and true success Ronnie says is having a well-balanced, priority based thought through plan.

Below are a few points from the video, Well-done success, that Ronnie shares in helping Christian me gauge their true, spiritual, success.

  • Am I actively helping my family grow in their faith in Christ
  • Am I making a significant contribution to my children
  • Am I doing everything possible to help my children become responsible adults

We all know people who have every reason to be happy, but they are not.  Likewise, we all know people who have reason to complain but they don’t.” ~ Pat Morely

Talk about something that goes against our natural human tendencies. . .


We’ll get to that in a bit.

Today Ronnie talks to us about “success sickness,” he reads it as being this “Success sickness is a disease of wanting more, but never being happy when you get it.”

In 2 Peter 1: 6-7, Peter says, “For by these he has granted to us His precious and magnificent promises, so that by them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world by lust.”

The power to grow doesn’t come from within us, rather it comes from God. We in and of ourselves don’t have the power to grow. What God does though is allow us—the believer, to become partakers of His divine nature “in order to keep us from sin and He helps us live for Him this way.”

Faith, however, must be more than us believing. Our faith has to be met with the display of our actions. Hence we manifest our Christian growth in character of our moral disciplines. If we don’t practice this, it will die away.

The list that Peter gives is a reflection of our faith in action:

  • Learning to know God better
  • developing perseverance
  • doing God’s will
  • loving others

These actions don’t come to us naturally, they require hard work on our part.  Hard they may be, but it doesn’t negate the fact that they are not OPTIONAL.  They must all be a continual part of our Christian walk.  We don’t finish one of these and then start on another one.  No.  Instead we work on them ALL TOGETHER.
God empowers and enables us, yet He makes the responsibility of the DOING . . . learning . . . growing . . .ours.
We should not be surprised at our resentfulness at times of this process.  It goes against our natural inclinations

“To receive a gift and not use the gift is a form of disrespect to the gift giver,” says Ronnie Roque of Who Me Be A Leader?

The spiritual gift that is given to the believer by the Holy Spirit once a person receives Christ as their Savior {are Born Again} are special gifts and abilities that are used to minister to the needs of the body of believers.

In today’s video, Ronnie speaks to his blog viewers about spiritual gifts.


The New Testament contains several lists of spiritual gifts, most authored by St. Paul. While each list is unique, there is overlap.

Romans 12:6-8 1 Corinthians 12:8-10 1 Corinthians 12:28 Ephesians 4:11 1 Peter 4:11
  • Prophecy
  • Serving
  • Teaching
  • Exhortation
  • Giving
  • Leadership
  • Mercy
  • Word of wisdom
  • Word of knowledge
  • Faith
  • Gifts of healings
  • Miracles
  • Prophecy
  • Distinguishing between spirits
  • Tongues
  • Interpretation of tongues
  • Apostle
  • Prophet
  • Teacher
  • Miracles
  • Kinds of healings
  • Helps
  • Administration
  • Tongues
  • Apostle
  • Prophet
  • Evangelist
  • Pastor-teacher
  • Whoever speaks
  • Whoever renders service

If we were to find some scribbles on a piece of paper, and ask what they mean, then we would be asking what the person who made the scribbles meant them to signify. Scribbles only mean something if they were made for a reason. If we found out that the scribbles were just drawn at random then we would cease to look for meaning in them. Random scribbles don’t mean anything.

The same is true of life; it only makes sense to ask “What is the meaning of life?” if we believe that life was created for a reason. If life simply evolved on Earth by accident, if we just happen to be here, then life cannot have any meaning. Life can only have meaning if it was created for a purpose. If there is no Creator, then there can be no meaning of life.

Of course, people can try to find meaning in life without believing in a Creator. We can set ourselves goals—wealth, fame, helping others—and decide to devote our lives to achieving them. If we do this, then in some sense our lives seem to become about achieving wealth, or fame, or whatever, to take on that meaning. It seems possible to impose meaning on life through our own decisions and desires.

Indeed, most people who ask “What is the meaning of life?” really mean something like “What goals should we set ourselves?”

In this video, Ronnie talks to his blog reader’s about the meaning and purpose of life.  He discusses the:

  • The eternal purpose
  • The earthly purpose, and
  • The cultural mandate


You may not know your specific purpose today or tomorrow, but as long as you keep seeking, you will find all that God has stored up for you. Never give up.

In today’s video Ronnie discusses what it means to be content with us.  Of course, I’ve jotted down some of my thoughts from his video to share with you.

As I think about the title the first thing that captures my mind is the fact that “Godliness plus contentment is great gain” is exactly what the Christian needs in order to grow spiritually, and it is what’s needed for our own personal fulfillment.

Contrary to what many of us read in the Word and are taught in church about money, most people still believe that money brings happiness.  Have you ever noticed that some people with money and an abundant of material possessions often times still crave more?  This wanting more and the lack of contentment for what we have can get us caught up in an endless cycle that often times leads to ruin and destruction in various forms.

How can we keep away from the love of money and become people who have learned to be content you asked?

I’m so glad you did.  Here goes:

  1. We must live like we will die one day and we do that by recognizing that our money and material possession will part from us one day.  They will be gone.
  2. Simply put, we must learn how to be content period.
  3. We must monitor what we are willing to do to gain our money and our things {our possessions}.
  4. We must be sure to love people more than we love our money and our possessions.
  5. Love God’s work more than we love money
  6. Freely share what we have with others
  7. We must prayerfully learn how to discern between our needs and our wants

So many of us have all that we need to live but we let ourselves become anxious and discontent over what we merely want.

Consider being like Paul—learn how to be content without having all that you want.  The only other alternative my friend is to become a slave to our desires and who wants to be a slave?

Who me be a leader? Ronnie Roque

Some people think worldliness is limited to external behavior—the people we associate with, the places we go, and the activities we enjoy. Did you know that worldliness can also be an internal attribute because its desires are birthed in our hearts first?

There are three attributes of worldliness: the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life.  In this video Ronnie talks about the boastful pride of life.

The three attributes of worldliness are:

  1. the lust of the flesh-preoccupation with gratifying physical desires
  2. the lust of the eyes—the craving and the accumulation of things bowing to the god of materialism, and
  3. the boastful pride of life—obsession with one’s status or importance.

When the serpent tempted Eve {Genesis 3:6} he tempted her in these areas.  Likewise, when the devil tempted Jesus in the wilderness, these were his three areas of attack {Matt. 4: 1-11}.

In contrast God values, self-control, a spirit of generosity and a commitment to humble service.

Like Jesus, too, it is possible to love sinners, spend time with them while still maintaining your commitment to the values of God’s Kingdom.

Ask yourself:

“What values are most important to me?”

“Do my actions reflect the world’s values or God’s values?”

Being truthful with yourself will help you know where to ask God for help, so that you can begin the work that is necessary to becoming more authentic in your Christian walk.